It's time to start adding to the home library. Any suggestions for a good, preferrably Canadian and feminist book on where babies come from/puberty/sexuality (I *hate* the term "facts of life") for kids (or girls) around 8?
I was also going to add to the list not overly heteronormative**, but since the "where babies come from" thing is primarily heterosexual intercourse, I figured that I might be asking too much, but if you do have a source that avoids privileging marriage as the (only) way babies are made, that would be better. (And yes, my daughter had asked why her friend has two mommies and how the gestating mom got pregnant, so far the answer "artificial insemination at the hospital" hasn't produced further questions).
As for books, my quick seach has yielded one that sounds good: Boys and Girls and Body Science, though the sociologist of health and women in me bristles a bit at the idea that reproduction should be thought of as "science" when it is a complex social and biological process, not just putting you know what into you know where*.
There haven't been a lot of questions about all this at home yet, and "the plan" is to just start buying some books and leaving them around. A fellow parent is doing this after going to a workshop on children and sexuality and I think this is a good way to promote a discussion-positive household that values healthy sexuality.
Which means working on my own skills in the discussion-positive area since that wasn't how I grew up (I had good information, but this was not a topic of discussion in my house outside that time when I was about 10 and mom took out the encyclopedia).
I'm not at the stage where I take Sue Johanson's advice and tell the kids we're having sex and they should not bother us and we lock the door. Mostly because I figure it'll be just like when I'm in the bathroom--it's an invitation to bother me.
*Yes, I'm being funny. And, I'm trying to avoid too much p*rn spam.